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The finale of any wedding celebration is the wedding night. Nowadays, the first night of the newlyweds has become a convention that has no value. Now it is considered the norm when newlyweds have sex far before the wedding.

But once the wedding night was accompanied by a whole ritual, different for every nation. We offer a look at the pages of history and remember the customs of the wedding night.

HOW WAS THE FIRST WEDDING NIGHT IN EUROPE

In the Middle Ages, there was a tradition in European countries according to which the bride had to spend the night not with her husband, but with the feudal lord. Historians give different arguments about the emergence of such a custom. Some argued that the deprivation of virginity is a dangerous procedure, subject only to deities, and the feudal lord took full responsibility for what was happening and protected the spouses from the wrath of the gods.

Others complained about the satisfaction of their sexual needs and the desire to be above everyone else, because the feudal lord could easily refuse ugly brides, and with beautiful girls this rule has always been followed. True, at the end of the 16th century, such a custom was abandoned in Switzerland, and in Germany it was replaced with a ransom.

SEX ON THE FIRST WEDDING NIGHT IN AFRICA

In some tribes of Africa, on the wedding night, it was customary to knock out the girl's two front teeth. It symbolized marriage - something like a wedding ring. Married women were not ashamed of their toothless smile and showed it to everyone, while unmarried women covered their mouths.

In Samoa, the first wedding night had to pass in the circle of sleeping relatives of the bride. Only newlyweds should make love silently so that no one wakes up. Otherwise, a serious scolding from relatives awaited the man. That is why many Samoan men lubricate their bodies with oil before their wedding night: it is easier to break free and the beatings are not so painful.

Sex on the wedding night in North Africa involved intercourse between the bride and guests at the wedding. Each guest had to give the bride a special gift.

There were tribes in which it was customary to deprive girls of virginity at a very young age - before the onset of menstruation. It had to be done by a complete stranger. Most often it turned out to be a traveler passing through the village. If at the time of the onset of menstruation a girl remained a virgin, this was considered a real shame, she could never get married.

In the Bakhtu tribe, which is located in Central Africa, instead of having sex on their wedding night, the newlyweds had to fight until dawn, and then disperse to their parents' houses and sleep off. A strange custom, of course, but every nation has its own cockroaches in the head. The next night, the newlyweds fought again. And so it continued until they pour out all the hatred on each other for years to come. Sometimes these fights ended in death.

Some African peoples had a tradition to carry out the act of defloration with the help of special tools. Such a mini-operation was carried out by the oldest women.

Sometimes this procedure was replaced with a natural one, but it was not the husband who had to deflower the girl, but the father or elder brother of the groom, as well as the priest or elder.

In the Arunto tribe, the friends of the future husband had to deprive the girl of her virginity. The man chose two or three friends, they kidnapped the bride and each of them had sex with her. When a girl loses her innocence, anyone could come to her house in the flesh until the very wedding and have sex with her in order to take a sample from a newly-made woman.

HOW THE FIRST WEDDING NIGHT HAPPENS TO THE MUSLIM

The first wedding night for Muslims has not changed much since ancient times. Most Muslims still have the custom to show the groom's relatives the sheet on which the newlyweds had sex. Blood stains testified to the innocence of the bride, if they were not there, the girl was considered vicious, it was a shame for the whole family. Currently, this rule is observed only in some regions.

Before the wedding night, Muslims must observe a number of customs:

• The first wedding night for Muslims takes place only after the bride transports all the necessary things to her husband's house. Dowry for a girl begins to be collected from an early age, she must have at least 40 blankets and pillows. Bedding must be decorated and hand-sewn (some items may not be purchased)
• Before proceeding with intimacy, a man should put his hand on his wife’s head, praise her, say a few kind words and end the speech with the phrase “In the Name of Allah.” Then, the newlyweds read two ritual prayers, after which the man reads another prayer, in which he asks to bless Allah for a life together and, in case of divorce, help them maintain friendly relations.
• A man must give his wife a lot of sweets and delicious drinks. Honey and milk were considered obligatory products on the table. The husband should be soft and gentle when communicating with his wife, win her over, talk. Indecent sexual relations are prohibited by the Quran. A woman should not push a man away, because this could lead to sad consequences. Also, the newly-made wife should not be indifferent and cold.
• In the morning, after the wedding night, the spouses perform a ritual of washing and start eating. Often they set the table and invite relatives.

HOW THE FIRST WEDDING NIGHT IS GOING ON FOR THE CHECHEN

For Chechens, the first wedding night takes place on the third day of the wedding. To perform the ritual, the man put on a special suit, which was previously presented to him by the bride's relatives. At this time, the woman should be ready in the bedroom, where her married friends bring her.

Before intimacy, a man should open the Koran and pray to Allah, then close the book with a thick cloth and proceed to deprive his wife of innocence. If the spouses did not know each other before the wedding, sexual intercourse is not a prerequisite on the wedding night, they must first get to know each other.

There should be no one in the room where the newlyweds sleep, not even animals.

THE FIRST WEDDING NIGHT OF THE MUSLIMS IN DAGESTAN

For Dagestanis, the first wedding night is held in a special way: it is turned into a rite of martial arts. A man will be worthy of a woman only if he wins. The bride is being prepared for a duel since childhood, and on the wedding night they shaved their heads, lubricated exposed skin with grease, put on clothes with many knots, pulled overalls with a cord that should preserve virginity.

Nobody was allowed to enter the room where the battle took place, it was only possible to eavesdrop and peep. According to ancient customs, the guy was obliged to defeat the girl, and the fight continued until the victory.

If the fight went on for too long, the bride was persuaded to surrender, they specifically did not let her drink and eat, but they did everything for the groom.

The faster a man unties all the knots in his overalls, the faster he can take possession of his wife. The battle took place without weapons, and it was not forbidden to inflict bodily harm.

HOW THE FIRST WEDDING NIGHT GOES WITH GYPSIES

Gypsies, of course, are not the purest nation, but they have been observing their traditions from time immemorial. The first wedding night among the gypsies is called the "Takeaway of honor" and is considered the most important ceremony at the wedding. The bride must keep her virginity before marriage, otherwise, she will dishonor her family. The newlyweds, along with three respected ladies from both families, go to a separate room where they check the bride's innocence.

The sex of the newlyweds takes place without witnesses, but the groom is obliged to take out the veil with traces of virgin blood.

According to another version, three ladies deprive the girl of innocence, with the help of a sheet wound around her finger, so that the newlyweds could not falsify the virginity of the bride. There is another version of the first wedding night among the gypsies - the bride and groom must have the first sexual intercourse on the banquet table in the presence of guests. When the girl's innocence is proved, the ladies put a sheet with traces on a tray, shower it with red ribbons and take it out to the guests. Red ribbons are distributed to the groom's relatives for a fee. After the ceremony, the bride is dressed in a red dress, her braids are braided and the veil is removed.

FIRST WEDDING NIGHT IN RUSSIA

At times Ancient Russia premarital relations were not forbidden - it was a ubiquitous phenomenon. Some young people managed to live with each other and get married, and sometimes they had children. In some settlements, a "trial marriage" was common, in our civil. Young people lived together, shared life, gave birth to their first child, and only then they could get married, if they didn’t change their minds.

Some traditions of Russia were similar to barbarian ones. At the wedding, every man could touch and grope the bride the way it should have happened during the wedding night. The bride could even be stripped down to her undershirt at the wedding to show off all the juice. When the wedding came to an end, the young retired to private room, and the guests eavesdropped and peeped under the door so that the newlyweds were busy with each other, and not with sleep.

Sex was supposed to last until the morning, which was facilitated by the guests - they yelled ditties with sexual overtones and spurred the young in every possible way. In the morning, the bride and groom provided evidence of the deprivation of innocence. If the groom did not succeed, he could repeat the attempt two more times, if even then he did not cope with his duty, the groom was replaced by a more experienced man. In some villages, it was customary to spend the wedding night with the groom's older brothers, who came to the aid of the inexperienced groom in case of emergency.

As we can see, the wedding night in many countries involved the deprivation of a girl's virginity, if the girl was vicious before the wedding, her family was disgraced, and the negligent bride could be returned to her parents. True, now any gynecologist will say that during the first sexual intercourse there may not be blood, just like pain, since the hymen is different for everyone.

Each religion differs from the others in its perception of the public and private life of a person. This includes marriage traditions.

The anticipation of the newlyweds on their wedding night is an exciting moment of marriage. Now they can know each other as husband and wife. The postmarital "ritual" is shrouded in many beliefs and customs fixed in the minds of believers.

The first wedding night in the Christian tradition

Christianity has built its own system of sacred dogmas that affect marriage. Although in Russia for a long time the majority of Christians have been loyal to the immorality of some brides, the chastity of the girl has always been held in high esteem. This idea is also present in the modern Christian world.

As before, in Christianity there is a tradition immediately after the end of the wedding feast to send the young to the groom's house. There, the next day, a young family will receive guests.

The Orthodox faith does not force observance of outdated customs (wooden flooring with bags instead of a bed with a mattress; seeing off the newlyweds to their house in a noisy crowd; eating bread and chicken in the bedroom by the newlyweds) associated with the first marriage night. The Orthodox devote much attention to the preparation of the place where the newlyweds will spend the first night.

The newlyweds are allowed to lay the bed to the matchmaker, sisters or mother of the groom. Bridesmaids are not allowed, as they may envy the happiness of the young. Bed linen must be new, clean and ironed. After the sleeping place of the future spouses is prepared, it should be sprinkled with holy water and crossed. There may be icons in the newlyweds' room. They do not need to be removed or covered with a cloth, since marital intimacy in marriage is not considered a sin.

The Orthodox Church recognizes legal and ecclesiastical unions of people. Christian priests say that only after the wedding, the newlyweds learn the sacrament of marital intimacy. Therefore, it is carried out immediately after the official registration in the registry office or the day after the wedding. Intimacy outside of spiritual marriage for deeply believing Christians is considered fornication, therefore the first wedding night should occur after the wedding in the temple.

It is impossible to have intimate contact between spouses on the first night if the bride is menstruating that day. On such days, the girl's body is considered unclean. Brides need to calculate in advance whether the wedding falls on “critical days”, since during this period a woman is forbidden to attend church.

Left alone with each other, the wife, like a true Christian, must demonstrate her meekness and humility. To do this, she needs to take off her husband's shoes and ask permission to share the marriage bed with him. On this sacred night, spouses should be especially gentle and affectionate with each other.

The first wedding night in the Muslim tradition

Islam has its own traditions of marriage. The last stage of nikah (the so-called marriage union among Muslims) is the first night of the newly-married spouses. For Muslims, it occurs after the bride arrives at her husband's house with her belongings. The main part of the bride's dowry is countless pillows and blankets. Without a comfortable mattress and good bed linen, a wedding night is impossible.

In the room where the husband and wife are, there should be no strangers, including animals. The lighting should be subdued or completely absent so that the newlyweds are less embarrassed by each other. If the holy book of the Koran is kept in the room, it should be wrapped in a cloth or taken out. A man should not be in a hurry and be rude towards his young wife. First, a Muslim should invite his wife to try dishes - sweets (for example, honey or halvah), fruits or nuts, a permitted drink () and spices.

Before intercourse, the newlyweds need to fulfill several conditions for a happy and charitable family life. The groom should put his palm on the forehead of the bride, say basmala (a sacred common phrase among Muslims) and say a prayer. In it, a Muslim asks for blessings from Allah, who should give them a strong union, where there will be many children. Then it is advisable for the spouses to perform namaz (a joint two-rakah prayer) and again turn to the divine power with the question: “O Allah, bless me in relations with my wife (husband) and her (him) in relations with me. O Allah, establish good between us and in separation, separate us in a kind way! During lovemaking, the husband should be affectionate and gentle with his wife so that she can respond to him in the same way.

In Islam, it is not forbidden to transfer the first marital intimacy to another time, but there must be good reasons for this: the bride’s menstruation, the newlyweds’ bad mood or well-being, a recent acquaintance of the spouses.

In some families, relatives like to stand at the door of the young to make sure that the girl is a virgin. Islam requires not to peep or spy on people, as this is a violation of the instructions of the Koran. In the Islamic faith, there is another custom associated with the maiden honor of the bride: if the young wife was an innocent girl, then the husband must spend seven nights with her. If the newly-made wife was already married, then the man should stay with her for only three nights.

The first wedding night in the traditions of other religions

Religious principles about the first wedding night in other religions differ little from those that have already been listed. But still there are small differences.

In Buddhism, it is customary to luxuriously and brightly decorate the room where the bride and groom will spend their first night. Followers of the faith believe that such an environment has a positive effect on the mood of the newlyweds and is a good start to their colorful and secure wedding. living together. Fresh flowers are used as decorations for the interior of the bedroom of the young. Spouses on their wedding night should be frank and relaxed, strive for mutual pleasure from the process.

In Judaism, it is generally accepted that the initiative to enter into a sexual relationship between young spouses should come only from a woman. Sex in this religion is not a simple entertainment and a way to satisfy instincts, but carries the sacred meaning of the unity of the bodies and souls of lovers. To make the first wedding night for the newly-made Jewish family really the first, all meetings of the young before the wedding take place only under the supervision of older relatives.

There is a custom that says that a man must read a prayer before performing his marital duty. In it, he turns to the Lord with a request to grant him physical strength and an heir - a son. This prayer is repeated three times at the conjugal bed.

Common traditions for all religions

There are certain traditions of the first marriage night, common to all religions. These include:

Washing after intercourse

In all religions, it is strongly recommended to wash the genitals immediately after an intimate act or rinse completely with water. This is especially true for men. The action is usually performed for hygienic reasons, and to protect the body from the evil eye.

Do not overeat before intimacy

There is a religious principle “do not please your womb”, approved in many religions. The newlyweds should be humble in their eating habits and full of energy for the sacred matrimonial act.

Now for most newlyweds, the first wedding night is just a tradition or a formality. This is due to the fact that this is not really the first night of love for everyone. Modern couples often do not wait for legal marriage and live for some time in the status of lovers or in a civil marriage.

But this does not mean that the first marital night should be ordinary and no different from all the previous ones. After the conclusion of the union and the blessing of the parents, you can arrange an extraordinary night, which will be the beginning of a new stage in the relationship and your family.

There were interesting statistics about how the newlyweds actually spend their wedding night, the results are amazing:

• 10% - after you finally managed to retire, imagine, they begin to sort things out. Most often this happens due to the obscene behavior of one of the spouses at the wedding.
• 15% - immediately take up the calculations of their family capital. Make plans for the near future.
• 65% are sleeping. Barely touching the pillow, having managed to say a few words to each other, they plunge into a long-awaited dream.
• 2-3% do things that are strange for the wedding night: they are looking for their missing soul mate all over the city, talking in the kitchen with distant relatives, having fun in the club.

But the remaining 7-8% are passionate about what you need to do on your wedding night.

The tradition was accompanied by a variety of rituals, without which the wedding night itself would have no meaning.

Our Slavic ancestors had premarital relationships. There was such a thing as a "trial marriage", and only after the first child was born, the young people got married and celebrated the wedding. Of course, despite this, the tradition of the first wedding night was relevant.

The spouses were locked in a separate room where they could retire, but relatives always eavesdropped at the door, looked through the keyhole, checking if the newlyweds had fallen asleep? They immediately started pounding on the door, shouting parting words.

How to survive your wedding night

The most important thing for two is to reduce the burden of organizational moments at the wedding. Try to distribute all the responsibilities for the most part among your close relatives.

Release all worries and enjoy the moment. And then, after a wonderful wedding day, the same wonderful wedding night will begin.

Try to get enough sleep before the wedding. Of course, you will be overcome by anxieties and worries, but in order for everything to be on top, you need to deal with them.

It will be best if you plan everything in advance, including where you will spend the night of seclusion. If you are going to spend them at your parents' house, ask them to spend the night somewhere else. This time they will understand you anyway.

Or consider staying in a good hotel for the night. Sometimes banquet halls have rooms for young people: a sauna, bedrooms in various styles (oriental, European).

The wedding ceremony stretches for the whole day, the newlyweds sign, walk in the park, pose for the photographer, then invite all the guests to the banquet, cut the cake together, and only then, after seeing the last guest home, are they left alone.

Of course, after such a long day, it is unlikely that there will be much energy left to organize a unique wedding night. Since parents are in many ways involved in preparing the wedding, you can have time to prepare the night entourage in advance.

You need to start by deciding where to spend this romantically unforgettable night. This should not be a place where you will be disturbed by guests, parents or anyone else. There is absolutely no need for someone to be located behind the wall. It will be embarrassing in the morning not only for you, but also for unintentional witnesses.

So a good option would be own apartment, a hotel room designed and pre-arranged for newlyweds, a rented yacht or a country house with amenities. The most important thing is that no one distracts you.

The whole essence of decorating a place for the wedding night is in the details. Prepare various incense, rose petals for the bed, decorate the room with candles, vases that will be filled with flowers presented at the wedding. You can also take care of snacks in advance by filling the refrigerator with fruits and sweets.

Decorate the bedside table with a white tablecloth, a bottle of champagne, glasses and strawberries. Separately carefully you need to choose bedding for the bed. It must be new and made of pleasant, preferably natural fabric. Often it is satin or silk.

If you do not have enough time for this, ask close friends to help. You will be pleasantly surprised at how they handle it.

After preparing the entourage, you need to think about yourself. In what form is it best to appear in front of your loved one after you take off your wedding dress? Of course, it should not be something simple and banal.

Accordingly, think in advance what to wear. It is very important that your future husband has not seen it on you before. Give him a pleasant surprise.

Your wedding night outfit should be as chic as it is at the formal ceremony. The main thing is that he evokes desire and excitement in your husband.

The ideal option would be beautiful snow-white linen. Ideally, you should create an image of an innocent girl, and white color best symbolizes purity. Let it be a lace bra and panty set.

If you want to make the process of undressing more interesting for your husband, complete the look with stockings and a belt for them. All elements should also be white and look like a bride's outfit. Decorative elements (rhinestones, beads, embroidery, ribbons) will help with this.

As a decoration, you can leave a bride's veil on your head. If she was chosen for the ceremony and is very long - buy a miniature version and make the image of a young wife completely complete.

The main thing on this night is not to rush to throw off all your clothes and go to bed faster. Stretch the pleasure. You can start by sharing a bubble bath with aromatic oils.

Turn on slow music, light candles and relax together, because now your whole life will go like this. Believe me, there is no need to spoil such a romantic moment by counting the money donated or looking at gifts. It can wait until morning.

After a joint bath, you can continue a relaxing massage in bed, smoothly moving to an erotic one. The bride must carefully prepare to look well-groomed. Therefore, do not be afraid to leave the groom alone for a couple of minutes and put your body in order.

Do epilation beforehand. Use a cream so that your skin is pleasant to stroke and touch you. But it is better to refuse sharp smells and perfumes. Opt for body sprays that will give you a light, fresh scent and make you look like a fresh flower.

Conclusion

As you already understood, only by doing everything with your soul, you can break out of those boring statistics that, unfortunately, haunt all newlyweds. The principle “be as it will be” will not work here, because it is in such cases that there is no strength left for the wedding night.

Love, appreciate, understand each other. Let your wedding night be the event for you that you will remember all your life.

The first wedding night is a pleasant, but exciting event. Compliance with easy rules will make this night unforgettable and deprive you of any unpleasant sensations.

Try to relax before an exciting event. Left alone with your husband, drink some wine or champagne, eat a light snack. Alcohol will help you relax, but don't overdo it or it will backfire. Chocolate and seafood are natural aphrodisiacs that increase arousal. Buy assorted chocolates, order sushi or a salad with seafood - aphrodisiacs will also help you relax and liberate yourself. To create a romantic atmosphere, light scented candles, turn on quiet music, or take a bath together. Ask your husband not to rush, let him wait until you are ready. If you are very worried, discuss it with your future husband before the wedding. Tell him about your fears, ask questions of interest. loving husband reassure you and tell you what to do.

It is better to spend your wedding night in a romantic setting, for example, in a hotel room, where they can bring you champagne and snacks.

Tell your husband comfortable positions

There are several positions in which defloration occurs most painlessly. The most popular position is the classic missionary. Here you can relax and give the initiative to your husband. Control his actions, and defloration will be quite easy. For more relaxation, place a pillow under your buttocks and pull your bent legs to your chest. Another good position suitable for a virgin is the “man from behind”. Lie on your stomach on the bed with your feet flat on the floor. Let the husband rest his hands on the bed and enter you while standing. In this position, the hymen is stretched, and its rupture is easy. During sex, it is better not to experiment, the positions of the rider, sitting and standing are not for you yet. If during sex there is pain and bleeding, it is better to stop contact. Blood is released in most cases, but sometimes it may not be. With severe bleeding, you should refrain from sexual intercourse for several days.

If the bleeding does not go away for more than 3 days, you should consult a doctor.

How to behave after sex

After sexual intercourse, you may be tired or, conversely, feel excited. But do not forget to pay attention to your husband. He was as worried as you were that something would go wrong. Thank him for his care, give free rein to kisses and hugs. We can take a shower together. Be sure to tell what you liked about your husband's actions, and only then you can give some critical remarks. Note what you would like next time.

How to spend your first wedding night

Since ancient times, we honor the traditions of the first wedding night. Let in modern society marriage night for many, it is only a convention, since for the bride and groom it is not at all the first. However, this night should be special.

1. First marriage night although it has lost its traditional meaning, it is still a symbol of new life for spouses. This is the first night as married people, and it must pass in a special way. This is the start of your new life night should serve as the foundation of your marital relationship.
2. The wedding ceremony and celebrations on this occasion are extremely exhausting for both spouses. Therefore, by the end of the holiday, there is a desire to fall asleep as soon as possible, because there is simply no strength left for something more. It is desirable to have a marriage night in a good hotel. It is in an unfamiliar environment.
3. In a hotel or hotel, book a wedding room. Your room will be decorated in a special way. A large and soft bed will be strewn with rose petals, silk linens will spice up this night. Make sure that no one even accidentally violates your privacy. Make love or not this night- it's up to you to decide. In the morning you will wake up for the first time as a married couple.

How to relax without alcohol

• Spend the evening with a bottle of beer, and on holidays not limit yourself to one bottle, and maybe even take something stronger on your chest - this habit exists among many. Some even cannot understand at all whether it is really possible to relax without resorting to the use of alcoholic beverages. However, they do not think that alcohol just does not allow the body to rest, but on the contrary, exhausts it even more.
• Listen to yourself: why can't you relax without drinking? Maybe it's just a psychological addiction. Drinking with friends makes you feel more relaxed and it seems to you that you are resting both in body and soul. And it is quite possible that the dependence is no longer only psychological and it is time to take drastic measures.
• If you're determined to eliminate alcohol or significantly reduce the amount of alcohol in your life, think about how else you can relax. After all, you usually drink with friends in a bar, a nightclub or even in a park on a bench. Change your circle of interests and places of visits.
• Go to museums, theaters, exhibitions. In such cultural places alcohol no, and you will feel that even without it you can spend time interestingly and with benefit for self-education. By the way, about education - start going to courses of what you have long dreamed of learning. Playing the guitar, learning a foreign language. If this is your long-standing desire, you will not get tired of such work.
• Get active in sports. Volleyball, basketball, football, whatever. Sports activities not only cheer up and give a positive charge to the whole body, but also improve the appearance. Get involved in social activities.
• An important role is played by communication with animals. Furry friends are great for relieving stress. Get out in nature more often. Watching her calms and fills the body with energy.
• If you choose the right way to spend your free time, you will be pleasantly surprised that even without alcohol you don't feel worse. On the contrary, your body will begin to truly relax, thanks to sports, the body will tighten up, and the new acquired knowledge may help you achieve those goals that you could not even dream of sitting on the couch with a bottle of beer.

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How is the first wedding night

Initially, the first wedding night was really the first in the life of the newlyweds. Girls kept their innocence for one single person - her husband. In modern society, the first night is considered just a beautiful ritual.

1. Decide in advance on the place for the wedding night. It could be a honeymoon suite in a hotel or your apartment, which you move into after your wedding. If you have been living together for a long time, you can, of course, arrange a wedding night at home, but it is unlikely that you will be able to create the right atmosphere.
2. Take care of decorating the room. Tie heart-shaped balloons, arrange candles, prepare rose petals. Don't forget to stock up on light snacks. In the process, you will probably get hungry, and the remnants of the banquet, carefully packed by your parents, will be out of place. Buy fruits, berries, chocolate, cheese. Put a bottle of champagne in the refrigerator.
3. The first wedding night is a beautiful end to the wedding day. It is very important that it takes place in a romantic atmosphere of love. Therefore, igniting the celebration, be sure to leave the strength to continue the holiday tête-à-tête with your spouse.
4. Make your bed with fresh linens ahead of time. It is good if it is washed with a conditioner that will give a light fragrance. Turn off your phones and make time for each other. Many newlyweds, having reached the place of the first night, begin to count the donated money. Do not get carried away with this and immediately start planning expenses. Calculate the amount and save until tomorrow.
5. Let the newly-made husband free his beloved from the shackles of the wedding dress corset. Girls should take care of wedding underwear in advance. It can be a thinner corset or a set. It is beautiful when the bride's underwear is made in white and decorated with lace.
6. In order to relieve fatigue after an emotional day, you can take a bath with your spouse. Stored rose petals, candles and champagne will come in handy here. Turn on beautiful music, put wine glasses and fruits on the table next to the bathroom and relax while sharing your wedding impressions.
7. A pleasant surprise for the young spouse will be a private dance performed by his wife. You can learn it from videos on the Internet, and practice it in advance at home. It's not scary if the movements are not honed. The main thing here is to surprise.
8. The first wedding night is a time of affection, tenderness, romance. Imagine that this is your first experience, kiss and hug more, take time for foreplay. Listen to your partner's desires during intercourse. And during breaks, feed each other fruits and sweets, clink glasses and rejoice, because you are now a family.

In order not to waste time and not look for containers for donated flowers in the middle of the night, stock up on a couple of plastic buckets.

If you spend the night in an apartment or house, take care of breakfast in the morning in advance. Good for toast, scrambled eggs, fruit, wedding cake leftovers.

What is the first wedding night

Previously, the first wedding night involved the first sexual contact of the newlyweds. V modern world this expression has a slightly different meaning. However, this does not prevent the newlyweds from looking forward to their wedding night.

• With the wedding night, many peoples are sometimes associated with very strange customs. In some African tribes, the innocence of the bride was considered a disgrace. And the blood that appears during the deprivation of virginity could bring illness to her husband. Therefore, girls were deprived of innocence with a special bone knife or just a finger. In other tribes, everyone took turns taking possession of the bride. And only after that the "experienced" wife could go to bed with her husband. Fortunately, to date, such rituals have been preserved only in a few wild tribes.
• In most cultures, the bride's virginity was highly valued. In Muslim countries, the tradition is still preserved, according to which, after the wedding night, the groom must provide evidence of the bride's innocence. Blood-stained sheets are hung out for all to see.
• In seemingly civilized Europe, there was a "right of the first night." And it did not belong to the groom. The girls had to spend their first wedding night in the beds of feudal lords. This applied to a greater extent to serfs, brides from noble families could avoid such a “privilege”. This barbaric custom existed in some countries until the 18th century. But in Germany, France and Scotland, another funny tradition has been preserved since ancient times. Friends of the bride and groom do their best to prevent the newlyweds from being alone. They make noise under the windows, sing obscene songs, they can hide a dozen alarm clocks in the bedroom. The newlyweds manage to enjoy each other only after the guests get tired and fall asleep.
• In Russian traditions, the wedding night was given great importance. The bride and groom were forbidden to drink strong drinks during the wedding feast. The bed for the newlyweds was made in a cold non-residential area. The newlyweds were escorted there by friends and matchmakers. The bride removed the boots from the groom. This custom was not intended to humiliate the young. In one boot, the groom hid gold and silver coins. If the newlywed guessed where the money was, she got the right not to maintain the family budget. In pre-Christian Russia, the virginity of the bride was a desirable phenomenon, but not mandatory.
• For modern couples leaving the registry office, the concept of "wedding night" is very arbitrary. The innocent bride is the exception rather than the rule. Most newlyweds enter into an intimate relationship before the official registration of marriage, and this does not shock anyone. Some couples even manage to have a baby before marriage. However, all this should not detract from the solemnity of the first night in marriage. On the contrary, the wedding night gives the couple an opportunity to return to a time when they were just discovering the joys of sex with each other. It is better to postpone the revision of gifts until the morning and do what the wedding night is intended for - love.

How to relax before sex

Intimate relationships are an integral part of the life of many modern couples. For some, sex becomes a way to get to know yourself and your partner better, to feel trust and become closer not only physically, but also emotionally. However, only those who are absolutely relaxed can be completely liberated in bed.

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You will need

• - beautiful underwear;
• - feather, puff or tassel;
• – massage oil/cream;
• - nice music

Instruction

1. A liberated person will be able to get maximum pleasure from intimacy. With such a girl, the partner will feel cozy and comfortable, and will try his best to please her. To fully surrender to the process, you need to relax before sex.
2. Your favorite music and beautiful underwear will help you get in the right mood. Just get dressed, listen to a few tracks, meditate or, on the contrary, actively move around. This will help you forget about problems, get unnecessary thoughts out of your head. If your partner knows about your excitement, you can conduct a “relaxation act” together.
3. A long foreplay will also help to relax before sex. Show your partner your erogenous zones, gently stimulating his sensitive areas as well. Pay special attention to the head, neck, ears and the area behind them. If you want to extend the time of sexual games, first use flirting by touching your loved one with accessories: puff, feather or soft brush. Gradually move on to closer contact.
4. Prolonged tactile contact will help to imbue trust in a partner. Ask your man to give you a light back massage. To make the touch more pleasant, use oil or cream. There are many nerve endings in the region of the back, shoulder girdle, and lower back. Their massaging will respond with pleasant sensations, help you relax and tune in to intimacy. Some girls are very excited about this foreplay. Especially if the partner, in addition to hands, uses lips and tongue.
5. If you are only at the very beginning of a relationship and you will have sex for the first time, try to “postpone” it until the morning, and spend the night in a confidential conversation and sleep together. Sexologists claim that the time spent together will help you emotionally bond with your partner and feel relaxed in his presence. Therefore, morning sex will be a logical and pleasant start to a new day (and a strong relationship).

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A man can also be very nervous before sex. Therefore, a long prelude will become for him the same "lifeline" as it is for you. The main thing is not to be embarrassed by your fears and try to overcome tightness and tension with joint efforts.

Some relaxation sources recommend drinking a glass of champagne or wine. However, remember: this way- a sure way to rash acts that you may regret. Such relaxation can also negatively affect your health.

What to do on your wedding night

Basically, all brides think about the wedding: the dress, the ceremonial hall, the toastmaster and other moments of this day are worked out to the smallest detail. But some people forget about another important question - what to do on their wedding night? When husband and wife are left alone in a new official status.

You will need

• - rose petals;
• - aroma candles;
• - silk bed linen;
• - Beautiful underwear.

Instruction

• Don't come home, make this night unforgettable. Book in advance a room in a good hotel, with a large bed and a beautiful view from the window. It is best to choose a honeymoon suite. This will help you get rid of pressing problems, relax and enjoy your wedding night.
• If you do not have the opportunity or desire to spend your wedding night in a hotel, you can go home. But make sure that there is no one at home, only you and your spouse. To create a romantic atmosphere, you need to take care of auxiliary items in advance. Rose petals on the bed, scented candles around, subdued lights and silk linens. Light snacks and cream can be prepared to use during foreplay.
• It is desirable for a girl to purchase beautiful underwear, a negligee to impress her husband. After a long day, makeup can get dirty and rice can get stuck in your hair, so it's worth going to the bathroom and cleaning yourself up. Do not take off your wedding dress yourself, let your husband do it.
• When you get rid of the uncomfortable dress, you can move on to the main thing. No need to rush, because you have the whole night ahead of you. Play some romantic music in the background to create the right atmosphere. Tune in to the right mood by taking a bubble bath together. After it, you can give each other a relaxing massage, smoothly turning into foreplay.
• If you are intimate for the first time on your wedding night, you must carefully deflorate. Place a folded towel under you to keep your bedding from getting bloody. Do not worry and try to relax so that the process is not so painful. There are two positions that will allow you to do this quickly and without unnecessary pain.

1. First: you lie on your back with a small pillow under your buttocks, knees bent and pulled up to your chest. In this position, the hymen is stretched and quickly torn, so that the pain is of a short-term nature. For the second position, you need to lie across the bed and lower your legs to the floor. Your spouse takes a position between the thighs and enters from this position. The defloration process is fast and you will not feel much pain.

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The completed sexual revolution made the intimate relations of the sexes more frank. No one is surprised or shocked for a long time if a couple lives together for a long time before marriage. But the wedding still remains one of the significant events in the life of a man and a woman. However, the representatives of the stronger sex do not always treat the first wedding night in the same way. But the young wife expects unforgettable impressions from her. Therefore, a man should be more attentive to the question of how to behave on their wedding night. It probably makes sense not to let everything take its course, but to prepare in advance.

How to spend your first wedding night?

Every woman wants to spend her wedding night in a romantic, magical setting. And it must be created, and flowers, candles, beautiful linen on the bed, etc. will help in this. Ideally, you can rent a hotel room or a country house. To spend an unforgettable night, you need to think about absolutely all the little things, including the availability of funds in the bathroom and contraceptives or intimate lubricant if the spouses have sex for the first time.

What should you do on your wedding night?

Many men who have not thought in advance what to do on their wedding night go straight "to the point", although this is fundamentally wrong. The pace of development of events, when the young are left alone, should be unhurried. Especially if there was no closeness between them yet. But even if the opposite is true, a man should not be assertive. Those who do not know how to behave on their wedding night need to show patience, be infinitely gentle and attentive. A woman expects to be carried into the bedroom in her arms, slowly undressed, covered with kisses every centimeter of her body, uttered many tender words, and only then it will happen exactly