How to properly communicate with a guy. How to behave with a man. What to talk about with a man

Sometimes it's hard to be yourself or stay calm when there's a guy you like around you. As soon as you see him, you start to sweat, your legs give way, you start to speak unintelligibly or say some stupid things (for example, about Winnie the Pooh), just to keep quiet. Don't worry, almost all of us experience such feelings from time to time. Try to calm down and understand that the guy is worried in the same way, being next to you! Only then can you impress him.

Steps

Part 1

Make eye contact. In order not to scare the guy away, look at him only occasionally, doing it as if by chance. If you stare at him all the time, he may find your behavior too intrusive. When communicating with this guy, you should not look at the floor and hide your eyes, look directly into his eyes. Believe me, the guy will definitely appreciate your courage and self-confidence!

Try to strike up a conversation. Ask him to change money for you or ask what time it is, as if you are late for class. Ask if he knows anyone from the student committee. Come up with some excuse to start a conversation. This should be a common household question that will not confuse him.

• During a conversation, it is perfectly normal to sometimes look away, because if you make eye contact during the entire conversation, this behavior can become stressful for him.

1. Try to get his friends to notice you. It's not a good idea to flirt with every one of his friends, but it's a good idea to do something to please them. Be friendly with them, try to be funny and learn something about them. Communicate with other guys, you can even flirt, but do not go too far, otherwise you will get the wrong impression about you. Show that you are an interesting and kind person, talk to his friends about their favorite sport, art or plans for the weekend, act at ease. Try not to show that you really like their friend.

   • If his friends pay attention to you and they can like you, believe me, they will definitely tell the guy you like about you.
   • If you manage to make friends with his friends, they may even invite you to joint parties where you can chat with the guy you like.
   • Don't make the popular mistake of asking his friends if he likes you. He will think that you want a relationship with him. For a guy, it's too easy and boring. Keep in mind if you often ask his friends about how he is doing, the guys will understand that you like him.

2. Show him that you are fun! If you and a guy are at the same party, but you still don't communicate, you shouldn't hide in a corner, sit with a sad face and wait for this guy to come to you. Spend time with pleasure! Laugh, tell stories and jokes, communicate with others. Be busy all the time, become who you want to spend time with. Try to make him want to start a conversation with you, because he will see that others are having fun with you.

   • If you show him that you are fun to be around and that many want to hang out with you, he will want to get to know you better.
   • The guys like sociable cheerful girls. Let him see you laughing your ass off rather than scrolling through social media alone.

3. Be yourself. As trite as it sounds, if you want to win a guy's attention, this is the best advice. After all, you want the guy to have feelings not for a fictional image, but for you. Of course, you should not immediately tell him all your secrets and devote to all the events of your life, but when communicating with him, be the same as with your friends. At first you will not feel very comfortable, but over time you will get used to each other more and more.

   • You probably think that guys like girly laughs who are always smiling and straightening their hair. Or girls who strive to please a guy in everything. This is far from true! Guys like sincere and self-confident girls who can be themselves, who don't have to pretend to be someone else.

4. Don't talk nonsense. Try to choose the right topics for conversation. You may think that gossip and nasty things about other people can impress a guy and make you an interesting person in his eyes. But even if he is impressed by some of your stories and gossip, he will still think that you are a stupid girl who cannot be trusted. Believe me, no guy wants to be around a girl who constantly says various nonsense and tries to attract attention to herself, as if she is the center of the universe. No guy wants to be with a drama girl.

   • Try to create a cheerful atmosphere and evoke positive emotions in the guy. You want the guy to be interesting and fun to spend time with you, and not that he wants to get rid of you as soon as possible.

5. Don't be overly jealous. This is the worst thing you can do if you want to get a guy's attention. If you see how the object of your adoration communicates affably with other girls, you should not immediately interrogate him or say that these girls are fat ugly. Do not disgrace yourself, because this situation will look very stupid, and you will seem jealous and angry! If you show your jealousy even before you start dating a guy, he will immediately imagine what a jealous girl you would become.

   • If your mutual friend appears in the company or just beautiful girl, surprise the guy: give her a compliment! Let him see that you are such a confident girl that you don't compare yourself to others.

6. Ask the guy what he's interested in. Let's be honest: guys love to talk about themselves. Well, who among us does not love? If you want a guy to like you, be a good listener! The guy needs to understand that you are interested in him and care about him, and that you are interested in not only his biceps. For example, you can ask him about his favorite sport, favorite teams, his personal achievements. Talk about his favorite bands, TV shows, favorite foods. Tell something about yourself so that your conversation does not look like an interrogation. Just show that you want to know more about him.

   • Some guys are quite shy and don't like to talk about themselves much. If you ask a guy, and he modestly refuses, you should not insist. In this case, it is better to talk about your plans for the weekend.

   Part 2

   How to keep his attention

   1. Be friendly to everyone. It's simple and pretty effective method win a lot of friends. Be considerate to him and to other people. The guy should see you as a nice person with whom it is pleasant to spend time. If you are kind and sweet to him, and rude to others, this will not make the proper impression on the guy. The guy will understand that you are just pretending. Such mind games will give you the opportunity to express your mood.

      • If a guy is thinking about dating you, he will understand that it will be quite interesting and pleasant, because you are a sociable and friendly girl who gets along with everyone. No guy wants to date a girl who flirts with everyone or is rude to other people for no reason.

   2. Flirt with him. Some girls manage to flirt very gracefully and naturally. If you are one of those girls, great! If you are not one of them, don't worry! The main thing is not to overdo it with flirting, so as not to look stupid. Just show him that you are interested in him, listen carefully to his stories, maintain eye contact, smile, laugh at his jokes. You can turn to him during a conversation. You can even "accidentally" touch it during a call. If you are comfortable with each other, you only learn about each other, and your interest is mutual, you can playfully tease him.

      • Another way to flirt is to be more playful. You don't always have to be serious.

   3. Give him compliments. They can be original or completely simple. If you liked something about your interlocutor, say so! It could be his looks, his skills, or his jokes. In any case, you can just say, "Oh, I love your haircut" or "It's amazing how you manage to study well and compete in baseball at the same time." Compliment something that relates to his achievements and characterizes him as a person. You should not say any vulgar compliments, like "Oh, you look very sexy in this shirt." Set them aside for when you start dating.

      • Don't go overboard with compliments. You can say 1-2 compliments in one conversation, but you should not insert them into each of your lines, otherwise the guy will feel uncomfortable.

   4. Now is the time to try to make physical contact. If a guy teases you playfully, playfully push him away or punch him in the shoulder. It is important that the guy touches you back. If you touch him and he doesn't respond to you, he may just be shy. If you're sitting or standing next to each other, try to make your knees or hands "accidentally" touch. Watch his reaction to a simple light touch. He might even want more.

      When talking to him, mention his name. People love to hear their name, so this is a great way to get their attention. Don't call him by his name more than twice in a conversation. In general, a couple of times is enough to make him feel that you are interested.

   5. Be an interesting conversationalist. Tell him some funny stories from life, talk about how the weekend went, discuss last news. Tell him that you enjoy dancing or playing the piano. It is important to be able to keep up the conversation on various topics, and not just tell some banal jokes. If you seem like a good conversationalist to him, with whom you can discuss any topic, he will want to talk with you again.

      • Sometimes awkward pauses in a conversation are perfectly appropriate. If you don't know what to say, just smile and then change the subject. Don't worry if you suddenly become silent in the middle of a conversation and there is an uncomfortable pause. If you are comfortable with each other, then in silence you will feel great.

   6. Keep calm. Even if you are very worried, and the butterflies in your stomach are about to give you away, try to be calm. If you don't worry, you can be cheerful and positive without talking too much. If you are very nervous, you can not look him in the eye. Just try to act like you normally do. Do not overdo it - do not constantly look around.

      • Believe me, there is a difference between self-control and demonstrative indifference. The guy should see your interest in him and not be afraid to admit to you that he likes you.

   7. Intrigue him! As soon as you notice that he is also interested in you, do something that will make him pay attention to you again and again. Let him become seriously interested in you, show that you are a unique girl! Be a little mysterious, don't tell him everything about yourself right away. Create intrigue and make him want to know more about you. You may end the conversation on a positive note, like you have to go somewhere. This is a better way out than gradually picking up topics and eventually saying goodbye after a long silence.

      • If you managed to intrigue the guy, most likely he will want to see you again and talk to you one on one. You should not squeal with delight if he invites you on a date, it would be much more appropriate to demonstrate your sincere joy about this.
   • Do not neglect the rules of hygiene, try to always look good: brush your teeth, wash your hair on time, wear clean and tidy clothes.
   • Make sure you always smell good. Pay special attention to bad breath. Brush your teeth, eat mints, and chew gum.
   • Smile. Be confident. Watch your body language and make eye contact more often.
   • Try to dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable. When you're uncomfortable and embarrassed, guys notice it.
   • Be yourself. So you will be noticed faster in the company.
   • The best way to get his attention is by casual eye contact. When your eyes meet, look away, look down and then back at him. Another trick is to quickly look away from him, and then look back at him after a few seconds.
   • Try to remember what he is talking about. Be sure to remember the names of people close to him, his birthday. This way you show him your interest in his life.
   • When you are around him, you can flirt a little, laugh at his jokes, even if they are not very funny. But do not laugh the whole conversation, otherwise you will look stupid.
   • Be a good friend to him. If you can't build friendships, you're unlikely to get anything more. Support him and be there for difficult times.
   • Don't look desperate, just breathe and relax. It will be very cool if you make friends with his friends, because then you will have a chance to chat with him.
   • Dress smartly so he knows you're taking care of yourself.
   • Do not chase him, otherwise he will consider you rather strange. Remember good manners.
   • If he asked for your number, give him your number. mobile phone. Don't give out your home phone number, you don't want him to accidentally call your parents when they're at home, do you?
   • If you don't know what to talk about, just ask questions to get to know each other better. Talk about his hobbies, about video games, then he will notice you.
   • Use perfume, but do not overdo it! Guys like girls who smell good.
   • Let him get to know you better. If you're shy about spending time alone, or you feel he's embarrassed, offer to spend time with his friends.
   • If you have already managed to become friends, offer to go to the movies together. Sit next to me. If he tries to hug you or take your hand - do not worry and do not try to pull your hand away, because everything is fine!
   • If you think he likes you, don't be afraid to ask! If he confesses his feelings to you or compliments you, thank him and compliment him back. True, this should not be done immediately after his confession, but a little later, so that he does not think that this is a compliment out of politeness.
   • Be patient. If you haven't talked to him yet, wait for him to take the first step towards talking to you.
   • Ask friends to help you. This does not mean that you need to ask them to ask the guy you like about his feelings for you. Perhaps they will help you get closer to him or help you look more attractive, both on the outside and inside.
   • When you walk together, try to lightly touch with your hands.
   • If the guy you like doesn't reciprocate or treats you rudely, switch your attention to someone else. Perhaps deep down he is a cruel and rude person who will bring you a lot of problems in the future. If you have become friends with his friends, ask them about his character. This will give you an edge.
   • If you are not yet at the age to go on dates with a guy, just spend time together: sit together at lunch, chat at breaks.
   • If you find out that this guy has had quite a few girls in the past that he didn't do very well with, it might be better to look at other guys before you fall head over heels in love with him.
   • Leave him a cute note on his desk or in his jacket pocket. Let him understand what you like.
   • Do not act too strange, do not show him character and do some dubious things.
   • If you spend time together, do not be distracted by the phone and other gadgets! He will think that correspondence on social networks is more interesting than a conversation with him. Besides, it's just rude.
   • If a guy asked you out on a date, chances are he likes you. But if he invited you to hang out with his friends, he may be trying to slow things down in your relationship.
   • Try to keep each conversation long but meaningful. If you feel like you're running out of things to talk about, say goodbye politely and promise to see you soon.
   • As mentioned above, be yourself! Don't be afraid to be funny and funny. Behave yourself. Surprise him, try something you've never done before, get his attention!
   • Do not miss the moment when you can invite a guy on a date. But first you need to be sure of your and his feelings.
   • When you're around a guy you like, don't act weird or be overly dramatic.
   • You should not immediately confess your love to a guy after meeting - this will stun and scare him.
   • If you see that the guy is not very interesting, do not be discouraged. He'll know what he's giving up!
   • Don't try to treat him the way other girls do. If he spends time with them, it's not a fact that he considers them as potential partners!
   • If you don't like his friends, try to act in a way that he doesn't understand. Do your best to please them. Of course, if they tease you or bully you, feel free to tell the guy about it.

Girls often wonder how to behave with guys, how to make them like them, and what actions are better not to do so as not to cause laughter or irritation. Relationships, like sympathy in general, can spring from nothing if two people are destined to be together; And if not? How to make the desired guy fall in love with you, attract his attention, “lure him into your networks”? How to generally behave with a guy you like, so as not to seem ridiculous?

Mistakes in behavior

First of all, remember that you need to make the guys themselves try to become interesting for you. This behavior can be called "prize behavior". That is, you are the desired prize, and he is trying his best to win you. When we first meet a person, we begin to talk with him, communicate, there comes a moment when we realize that we like him. Then there is a desire to please the guy.

Now the girl wants him to pay more attention to her, and tries to please him in everything. And this is where the first mistake is made! A man quickly realizes that he is interesting to a lady, and already ceases to appreciate her attention. That is, you are no longer a "prize" for him. He does not have to try to win your sympathy. Now the man begins to accept only what you do for him. One way or another, his interest is slowly cooling down, and in such a relationship "winter" begins. Is it right? Is this a tactic to get the attention of men? Of course not!

Many times you have heard that a man is a conqueror, not a trophy, so the behavior of "pleasing" or "hunting" will not help you "fake" a guy at all. Here you need to do the right thing, think over your every step so that he does not guess that you have "laid eyes" on him. Then how to behave with the guy you like? The answer is simple: you need to draw attention not to him, but to yourself. There are some "magic" tips that will help you easily achieve the desired result. We will talk about them today.

Correct line of conduct

Competent installation

Communication must be earned.

A man should not be rude, just as you should not agree with everything he tells you: be a little mysterious and a little inaccessible. If a guy invites you for a walk, you can answer with a smile: “Maybe. We'll see how you behave". At the same time, it is important to “sparkle” your eyes and smile seductively. If you say these words to yourself under your breath with the tone “leave me alone”, then it is unlikely that a man will ever seek you out again.

Create competition

You can casually tell a man that you arrived at work earlier today than the rest of the employees, because a friend gave you a lift. Then add that you don't really like to ride with him. Perhaps the guy then wants to prove that he rides better than others. The spirit of competition in men is present from birth. Therefore, in order to evoke the necessary emotions in him, you can use such a trick.

Challenge the man

You can make a challenge by saying in his presence that you never fall in love with men. As you know, forbidden fruit is sweet. They will definitely want to convince you that you are wrong. But just before that, be sure to be prepared for a discussion in order to correctly argue your words.

Women's weaknesses

Don't confess your love

The main thing here is not to start perceiving it as your property, and at the same time mentally make plans in which dress you will appear before the altar. This is a big mistake, and if he feels it, he will definitely slip away from you.

Don't be afraid to say no

If the guy didn’t think about asking you out on a date, then it’s better to refuse him. Moreover, having received an invitation a couple of hours before a date, you probably turned out to be just a fallback: the restaurant was booked, and the other lady refused to come. In any case, no matter how much you like the guy, it’s better to let him know that the date needs to be earned, and you are not a “cork” for free space in the schedule.

Stop smiling all the time

Why does it happen?

Lovers are not chosen - it's true; but much is within the power of a woman who believes in herself and knows which arrow to choose in order to wound a man in the heart. There is no universal way to win the love of men, but if you follow certain recommendations, then the sympathy of the stronger sex is guaranteed to you.

When building relationships with guys, it is important to adhere to certain rules. Many girls feel embarrassed, shy, and someone begins to behave too provocatively and boldly, trying to mask embarrassment. Often a girl puts on some kind of mask, inventing an image for herself that is too different from herself. As a result, communication can become unpleasant and relationships too confusing. Be yourself, remember the simple guidelines and always follow them. You will quickly learn how to communicate with guys correctly, become a natural, pleasant and interesting conversationalist.

1. Acquaintance. If your communication with a guy is still on initial stage, you recognize each other, do not place any accents yourself. Sometimes girls immediately begin to establish closer contact. Someone, on the contrary, instantly makes you feel the distance, shows that only friendship is possible between them. You have not yet had time to understand what kind of guy is in front of you, how do you know how the relationship will develop later? Most often, after a while, a girl has to radically change her manner of communication when she is disappointed in a guy or suddenly sees him. positive sides. The young man will eventually decide that the girl is fickle, she herself does not know what she is striving for. In most cases, the impression remains unpleasant. In addition, the guy himself may want to outline the development of relations. If you do everything for him, he will not feel responsible.
   
2. Friendship. When you have already determined that you would like to be friends with a guy, try to gently show it if necessary. Communication should be natural, it is important to build relationships honestly. Do not leave any disagreements. If a guy has illusions, they must be dispelled. Otherwise, you will find yourself hostage to the wrong manner of communication: the longer you keep the guy delusions about your potential relationship development, the more difficult it will be later to explain to him how you really feel. It's no secret that some girls, not knowing exactly how the romance with their beloved will turn out, plan a "spare" with another guy. And then they act according to the circumstances. Don't play with fire! If you do this, you will hurt another person, sooner or later the same thing can happen to you. It is better to decide on all priorities at once.
   
3. Love. Are you in love? Yes, then it is simply necessary to communicate with guys correctly! You can make some of the most common mistakes that will push your loved one away from you. Try to follow some rules so that everything goes well, and communication is always pleasant:
   • do not hide your feelings, you should not show indifference or arrogance, you should not be late for dates on purpose, etc.;
     
   • do not rush to "rush on the neck" of the guy;
     
   • behave carefully and do not try to cause jealousy, check the feelings of your loved one: why provoke a guy and worsen your relationship?
     

Learn how to properly communicate with guys. Some Tips
Follow simple rules so that your communication with guys is easy, natural and positive.

1. Be yourself. Create your image, change styles, correct flaws and improve for the sake of your loved one. But always be yourself. Do not try to appear better, weaker, stronger than you really are. You can be genuinely interested in a guy's hobby, even start attending football with him or go hiking. Just don't change at all, completely adapting to his interests, and don't try to deceive him by saying that cars are your passion. Especially if you do not distinguish Opel from Audi. Your game will open quickly and the guy will be disappointed.
   
2. Don't talk too much. Let the guy do the talking. He will probably get bored quickly if he only listens to you and fails to get a word in. You have a great opportunity to get to know the guy better, see how he behaves, how he directs the conversation, what he is interested in. Sometimes girls start talking a lot out of embarrassment, some tend to brag about their achievements. This should not be done - communication should be natural, two-way.
   
3. Do not be silent. The other extreme is silence. The girl is shy and does not know how to keep the conversation going. The guy will be completely unaware: maybe you are not interested? Or have you been thinking about your own for a long time, do not listen to him? Try to keep the conversation going, and if you don’t know or don’t understand something, just ask.
   
4. Let him make an appointment. It is not worth hinting at the next meeting. Much better if the guy makes the next appointment himself. The initiative must come from him. He will not only be happy with his leading role in a couple, but also feel a certain responsibility.
   
5. Modesty. Many are worried about what it is - modesty. And does a modern girl need it? Of course! This does not mean that you need to frown, be shy, shy away from any rapprochement. You just should not immediately agree to everything and demonstrate excessive courage and looseness. It is likely that at first the guy will even like this behavior, but then he will definitely think about whether to take your relationship as serious. Maybe this girl is just frivolous? The young man will probably decide that everything is not so important, since the relationship is developing so quickly.
   
6. Cloth. Choose outfits according to the circumstances. Why shine in a gorgeous dress if you just went out for a walk? The guy is dressed simply, and you look like a Hollywood star... He will feel awkward. Perhaps he will conclude that clothes play too big a role for you.
   
7. Cosmetics. The ideal option is to use a minimum of cosmetics, stick to one set of natural shades. Otherwise, the guy will probably be wondering: what are you hiding under the layers of cosmetics? Why is it so necessary?.. Emphasize your natural beauty, do not make a mask out of your face. Remember that most guys aren't into artificial looks.
   
8. Attentiveness and sensitivity. Does your boyfriend talk too much about himself? You wanted to point out to him his mistakes? Be careful! It is very important to be sensitive: it is very easy to offend a person, but it is not easy to correct the situation later. Try to be gentle.
   
9. Positive. A positive attitude will help you communicate with guys correctly. Build relationships freely, do not constrain yourself. It is not worth discussing problems for a long time, complaining about troubles is not worth it. Let communication bring joy.
   

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How to behave with a man? There are documented and unwritten rules regarding human behavior that determine permissibility and upbringing, courtesy and observance of certain traditions - all these types of behavior tell us from childhood, but it is not always customary to tell a girl how to behave with a man, and in some this topic in general taboo. However, with a certain line of behavior, you can improve relationships or ruin them completely, choosing how to behave, you choose the future fate of the relationship.

Dealing with such a delicate issue is to determine how to behave with a man at the beginning of a relationship, since it is better to initially build everything in a way that is comfortable for you than to spend years and thousands on your own and couples psychotherapy in an attempt to edit what happened. And difficulties usually arise due to the fact that at the initial stages people are rarely quite frank, but try to play some kind of role, certainly something similar to the true picture, but still less voluminous and real. Such behavior is dictated by the desire to please, and then you can observe how a woman laughs at not funny jokes, eats fast food, although before that she aspired to veganism, hides her aggressiveness and criticism of her companion, hides some facts of her biography (for example, radical views or extreme love).

Some try to squeeze into the replicated image and are touched by the children, portray responsiveness, rejoice in cooking as the last happiness. Such metamorphoses are due to the desire to hide their own shortcomings and exaggerate the positive qualities considered among men, but there are also moments when a woman does not express her frank opinion, confuses traces in answers to questions in order to maintain her own safety, to close sore spots that are not yet close to a loved one. I don’t want to open it, but that can significantly affect further relations. What was not the reason for such theatricalization, the result is the same - a woman cannot stand to play the chosen role around the clock, and relationships are getting closer, and if it was not difficult to be a smiling shy woman twice a week, then portraying it around the clock, being the director of a construction company, will lead to the collapse of either a relationship or a career.

Either comes out, in some families it happens after the birth of children and a fairly long experience of life together, but then the man leaves, faced with irreconcilable traits, or even reconcilable ones, but the fact of deception gives rise to such a large level of distrust that no further deep interaction is possible anymore.

How to behave with a man so that he himself reaches out to a woman - psychology

In order not to be mistaken and understand how to behave with a man at the beginning of a relationship, you should imagine that you are communicating with an old and close friend or relative, with that person who does not need to be impressed and meet standards, but you can be yourself in any state and any manifestations. Talk about your dissatisfaction, and do not swallow irritation in the hope that you will endure it; go out without make-up, if this is normal in your daily life; show your character and do not try to seem weaker or dumber on purpose - in general, behave naturally. Firstly, such sincerity captivates and turns on interest, secondly, a man immediately notices that there is a person and a living person nearby, and not a comfortable doll in a beautiful package, and thirdly, such honesty will allow you to avoid your own tension, because he who does not suit who you are will not continue the relationship. And this is perhaps the most profitable investment of such a course of action - you immediately weed out not your people, ensure your safety for the future, since terrible secrets will not be revealed, and save time for the worthy or your own pleasure.

Here is such a not cunning in voice acting, but problematic in execution rule for starting a relationship, it is easier given to those who regularly deal with issues of their own soul, mechanisms and features, since the lack of sincerity and strangers is necessary due to the presence of complexes or severe mental wounds, children's introjects, not allowing you to open up and present yourself to the world in the capacity that is the actual presentation of the personality.

When the first stages of the relationship have been passed and everything is going well for you, the question begins to arise how to behave with a man correctly so that boredom or scandals do not gobble up the relationship, and the darling himself is constantly drawn to interacting with a woman.

How to behave with a man so that he does not go to another? It is worth starting not with the most important, but the most frequent one - this is maintaining your own external attractiveness. On the one hand, having looked at each other over the years, they will already forgive you a lot, but it is contraindicated to aggravate the situation to the point that a woman preens only before going out, and with her husband she walks in a terrible way, or forgets about her appearance and gains twenty kilograms, is contraindicated. Taking care of the healthy condition of your own skin and body, keeping your hair and nails in order are the minimum requirements for self-respect, namely, the interest of others begins with it. Chasing liposuction and plastic surgery is overkill, but do not forget about perfumes, beautiful underwear and stylish clothes, and sports should not be aimed at pumping a pile of muscles, but at maintaining good health and proper metabolism.

Men want attention and care. An important nuance is that care should not be maternal (“put on a scarf, do not walk with the guys for a long time”) and not intrusive (when a woman has learned to guess the desires of a man by her look and fulfills them, forgetting about herself). Care should reflect male-female relations, and he has a mother, a maid can be ordered in the appropriate service. Here it is worth focusing on keeping the conversation going when he talks about his significant topics, as well as paying attention to his preferences (you can - support an intimate experiment or cook what he asked for dinner). Praise in time, notice good things even in a failed situation, wisely point out mistakes and shortcomings, is perceived as concern if it is expressed correctly and in accordance with the situation, and in the future he will increasingly want to come back for your opinion. As for the material side, sometimes pamper him with absolutely useless, but desirable things, create a cozy atmosphere at home. If you think that you and the house are different things, then know that many men note how cold and empty the house became when the wife left.

She avoids complete merging and dissolution in her adored man. Many women abandon their lives and completely immerse themselves in the life of their husband, at first it looks like supporting his interests and striving to spend time together, but as a result it turns out that they need periods of rest from each other, their own space. But by the time of understanding the need for rest, usually a woman has already lost her own hobbies, and is trying hard to impose her company or control on her husband. Respect for other people's interests is absolutely inviolable rules. A man should have time and resources for his own hobbies and friends not in common with a woman. At the same time, the requirements of the report, constant calling, surveillance of him are humiliating for both. We will not mention the inviolability of his mail, phone and social profiles once again. To keep from this kind of pressure, keep up your own non-pressure activities and learn to have a great time no matter where you are.

The way you solve problems and express your own dissatisfaction also plays a role - if you do it in a manipulative manner or make a fuss, find fault, itch every day, then the man will most likely run away. All claims and disagreements should be discussed in an open form, without trying to put pressure on feelings, from a position of cooperation, because relationships are a joint product.

And in order for a man to reach out to you even after quarrels, you will need a spiritual community, which is achieved by joint interests and activities. But people can spend a lot of time apart, work in different fields and have absolutely no understanding of each other's hobbies, but have strong relationships. The secret is in the same life goals, set priorities and unspoken mental claims, ranking the significance of events and ways to achieve goals.

In general, for a man to be drawn to a woman, she must be a psychologically adult open person, with her own convictions and the ability to build productive contact, if the man himself is psychologically formed. Infantiles will always look for mothers and none of your internal organization will force him to return, except for absorbing care, habitual control and the ability of a woman to bear double responsibility.

How to behave with a man so that he falls in love

One-sided love is an excellent inspiration for creativity, judging by the number of works dedicated to suffering, but those who fell in love with each other are no longer up to poetry and paintings. If you still do not want to choose a creative path, then you can direct the energy level that has risen against the background of a hormonal surge into the channel of an indifferent object of adoration falling in love with you. A man can easily be captivated by his own beauty, an interesting meeting, some kind of proposal, but not always the hobby develops into love. The mistake is that without information about the man, having received a piece of individual attention, the woman believes that everything has come together successfully, and now he will bathe her in champagne, and the man loses his quickly sparked interest and disappears from the radar after a couple of joint evenings. So constant attention, showing active interest and analyzing his words, reactions, actions will help to translate the passion into a deeper interest. Your ability to support topics that are interesting to him, your ideas that coincide with his opinion are tools aimed at establishing a more interesting contact.

But watch your own behavior without becoming a sleuth who elicits information. A woman attracts, first of all, with her femininity, distinctive softness from the male world, playfulness and openness. Speaking of feminine manifestations, dresses and lipsticks immediately pop up in my head, but for men, feminine behavior, the ability to build phrases and own voice are much more important. The ignorance of the female world fascinates and captivates, and men strive to solve mysteries, so naturalness is welcome, but opening all the cards and telling your full biography should not be allowed. Leave room for his fantasy, which is your most faithful assistant, because you will not be able to tell about yourself as temptingly as he can imagine. Feel free to talk about general information, but about deeper or intimate things, try not to talk or gracefully evade the answer with half hints and smiles.

Show interest in a man, communicate, but do not impose. Independence causes a desire to do something for you, the absence of questions about his feelings pushes you to shout about it to the whole area, some coldness and lack of fear of losing him make you fight for you. the hunter works rigorously, and the more complex the prey met on the way, the more interesting the man is, therefore, the more independence you show, the more he will fall in love with you. You can skip his call, go to dinner with a friend, but do not forget to show that you are interested in him - such emotional swings make men emotionally invest in relationships, and they usually do not leave what they put a lot of effort into.

Engage in the expansion and deepening of your own special and social knowledge. The times when a woman was interesting only for her appearance are long gone and now being an interlocutor who is knowledgeable in various areas is the norm. And, besides, a rich dialogue provides opportunities for planning and building a joint further pastime, while after bare intimacy, there is no interest left, and there is nothing more to meet.

Develop your own, because talking with a man only on topics of interest to him, you risk losing his attention soon. The delight of community passes, but the brain's need for new information remains, so the time will come when you need to gradually reveal the full depth of your own spiritual world, plunging into which a man can experience a variety of emotions. Let it be delight or a desire to convince you, a desire to join or forbid - any reaction will give rise to a further development of relations.

But not only in conversations is the power of the birth of love, but in the tenderness of touches that occur as if by chance, in passing, almost imperceptibly. This is the rapprochement of psychological distance, establishing contact with his body and imprinting in him not only as a spiritual carrier of information, but as a completely living physical object of the opposite sex.

How to behave with a man so that he is afraid of losing

Women are restless beings and at first they worry about starting a relationship, then so that the depth and seriousness of what is happening with the partners coincide, and then they are afraid to lose the existing one. This is what gives rise to the need to settle it in your man, since for the woman herself it is a proof of love and a kind of guarantee of stability and reliability in the future.

The inviolability of someone else's physical and spiritual space, as well as the ability to keep a distance, allow relationships not to wither away and save them from quarrels and scandals due to excessive control. With skillful dosing of your own presence in a man’s life, you get what you want - it is he who will show more attention and activity in your direction and be afraid to lose your disposition. A woman who does not stick to family affairs, attending various events, and both with her man and without him, does not cause cloying. If the time devoted to yourself is used to good use (and it doesn’t matter if you spent this day at the spa or at the training, visited the exhibition or got a new hairstyle), then the man’s interest in such a woman doubles. Understanding her value and versatile development, a man adequately assesses his chances and understands that simply lying next to him on the couch will not be enough and someone more interesting can completely capture the attention of his woman. Getting bogged down in everyday life, you lower the bar of your significance and the bar of men's and achievements. A man strives and wins for the sake of a goal or to keep his prey, and for the sake of an ever-sticky bush, with whom you can only talk about fallen off wallpaper, he is unlikely to lift a finger and will be very worried about its presence or absence in his life.

Choose the policy of relations as between good friends, instead of the Soviet house-building and total patriarchy. When you can keep up any conversation with your man and he doesn’t have to strain his brain, what threatens to discuss the next topic (, scandal, reproaches), then the level of frankness in the relationship increases infinitely and he doesn’t have to go to other people (not necessarily a mistress) for an understanding word , perhaps to friends, but the value of a woman who does not understand is minimal). Respect his opinion and interests, remember, because you will express your disagreement to a friend, calmly argue why, but leave it to him to decide and choose how to live on, continuing to accept him and this choice, why, in relation to your own man, you need to build a totalitarian regime with the only right opinion. Again, do not give in to your interests and do not let your loved one push through his own point of view, just as you do not live by friendly decrees. Listen, ask for advice, but do not let them command - such relationships are possible only in a bilateral mode and, without respecting the choice of a person, you do not have the right to demand respect for your own decisions.

Do not remain the same by choosing a line of behavior that once worked perfectly - this is a mistake, because it was not the line that worked, but the innovation that it brought. When a man gets enough of your modesty or independence, he will cease to admire it, and over time will begin to annoy, and not the quality, but the constancy and immutability of your personality. Woman, first of all male eyes- this is a storehouse of various emotional sensations, so do not be afraid to show both your own anger and defenselessness. The more diverse the range of emotional reactions and information a man will receive from you, the more often spontaneity will appear (not to be confused with critical unpredictability that can lead to hysteria), the more you will appreciate and be afraid to make mistakes in your own actions towards you.

Do not force a person to change according to your vision of the rules and elections, accept it and when you want to show your concern, do it in the way that a particular man will appreciate. Those. if he prefers hiking and pizza while playing online, then you don’t need to drag him to an Italian restaurant to eat oysters - it will be awkward and stressful for everyone, but if you put him a tray of burgers and go to a friend while he and other players go through another raid, then you can return under his praise of you on Skype to your comrades complaining about their wives.

Do not forget about the intimate side, because men forgive everything for excellent mistresses - a mess in the house, boorish behavior, idleness and outright stupidity. And the point is not in the notorious “everyone needs one”, but in the fact that in order to deliver maximum pleasure, you will have to learn a lot in terms of techniques, master foreplay and massage, understand the intricacies of the influence of colors, smells, temperatures, products. And this is just the beginning, which must be creatively applied each time in different ways, subtly feeling the state of the man and the environment at the empathic level. Men do not need girls who spread their legs at the first hint - there are plenty of them, they need a woman who knows how to feel it and deliver the necessary psychological states through physical influences - relaxation, confidence, inspiration, strength, humility, the ability to look from the other side.

The principle “if you want to keep it, let it go” works one hundred percent, because then the decision to be with you is the man’s own sincere desire, and even spurred on by external factors of your independence. This adds strength, joy and energy, while constant monitoring and interrogation simply kill any desire, except for the desire to quickly disappear beyond the horizon.

Speaker of the Medical and Psychological Center "PsychoMed"

Many girls do not know how to behave with a guy in order to interest him. First of all, you should always be yourself. If you put on the mask of an impregnable woman, a prudent bitch, a little girl or an intellectual, then in this way a man will perceive the girl in the future. And when the true face is revealed, all interest will be lost. If the girl's goal is a long-term relationship, then you need to forget about any masks.

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Often girls have a male friend. It is very important to communicate with him correctly so that friendly relations do not develop into something more:

• You can not single out a friend from the company. If friends have a common environment, then signs of attention should be the same for everyone.
• Any flirting is prohibited. It is customary for girls to hug, kiss on the cheek, but men take such actions for flirting. If it's hard to resist, you should put yourself in the place of the guy.
• Jealousy is cancelled. If a girl starts to get jealous, it means that the guy is not indifferent to her.
• Everyone pays for himself.
• Any monetary debt should be repaid, otherwise it is perceived as a gift.

These actions can also show the guy who likes you that he is just a friend.

How to make a guy fall in love with you

Falling in love with a guy you like is not so difficult. To do this, you should follow certain rules:

• Tease. Before you start dating, you should periodically disappear, miss calls and cancel meetings. You need to let the guy know that you do not belong to him. However, you can't overdo it.
• It is necessary to love the interests of a man. Common emotions and impressions strongly unite people.
• Appearance should always be well-groomed. If a girl looks irresistible, it will attract any man. But you should not wear too revealing outfits, for example, mini-skirts - knee-length models with a small slit should be preferred.
• To ask questions. Men love to be appreciated. If a girl remembers all the details of the conversation, then this indicates her interest.

How to behave on a first date

Every girl wants her first date to be perfect. She tries to think through everything to the smallest detail and therefore begins to worry and panic. You don’t have to load yourself too much, the main thing is to understand that a date is a simple meeting where you need to behave naturally. It doesn’t matter where the first date will be (in the cinema, in a cafe or on a walk), in any case, you should follow certain rules:

• You can't be late. If you are unable to arrive on time, please call and let us know.
• Be natural. You don't have to pretend to be someone you are not.
• Don't talk in vain. Ask questions and listen carefully.
• Don't be afraid to be funny and stupid. Guys like to show off their knowledge.
• You can't discuss others.
• Show interest in his hobby.
• Thanks for the walk.
• After a breakup, you don't have to call first.

Do not be afraid to tell the guy about your excitement. This way he will know that you are interested in him.